Help me out here fellas...

Bigbadasian · #1 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 07:28 AM

|--[\\\]>-------- Ok, my gf just moved out to AZ...i live all the way across the country. She is used to long dis. relationships so it's not too hard for her (she was in another for 2 years) and i have only been in one b4 and it didnt' go well at all...ended up hating eat other, but this girl is the 1st girl i ever really loved (i mean, we talk about marriage now--BBA actually wanting to settle down) she told me how faithful she can be and pretty much trust her b/c b4 we 'hooked' up we were just friends and she told me how much it hurt her when her last bf long dis. cheated on her and how she was so faithful to him ...so i know she wasn't lying b/c we were not together...anyways...i just want to know if any of you are/have been in a long dis. relationsihp. She tells me evrynite how much she wants me to move down there to be with her when i'm ready to...i am the only one she loves and all that. In the past when we were NOT as serious but kinda together, i did do some 'bad' tings (you know) and she is the one who came to me and said, i want to be with you and we can work things out...i mean any other girl who didn't love you that much would say "fuck you...i'm kicking you to the curb" but not her..that is why i really think she loves me and i don't have to worry about her meeting anyone else down there. suggestions or advice pls.

Daveb19 · #2 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 08:39 AM

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Originally posted by Bigbadasian
|--[\\\]>-------- Ok, my gf just moved out to AZ...i live all the way across the country. She is used to long dis. relationships so it's not too hard for her (she was in another for 2 years) and i have only been in one b4 and it didnt' go well at all...ended up hating eat other, but this girl is the 1st girl i ever really loved (i mean, we talk about marriage now--BBA actually wanting to settle down) she told me how faithful she can be and pretty much trust her b/c b4 we 'hooked' up we were just friends and she told me how much it hurt her when her last bf long dis. cheated on her and how she was so faithful to him ...so i know she wasn't lying b/c we were not together...anyways...i just want to know if any of you are/have been in a long dis. relationsihp. She tells me evrynite how much she wants me to move down there to be with her when i'm ready to...i am the only one she loves and all that. In the past when we were NOT as serious but kinda together, i did do some 'bad' tings (you know) and she is the one who came to me and said, i want to be with you and we can work things out...i mean any other girl who didn't love you that much would say "fuck you...i'm kicking you to the curb" but not her..that is why i really think she loves me and i don't have to worry about her meeting anyone else down there. suggestions or advice pls.

Yea im going through the same shit, my girlfriend lives 2300 miles! from me, in san dimas california, im in Detroit MI. I got to spend last week with her in san Dieageo have been home 3 days now and miss her so much already, we are in love and tlaking about moving in ect.... im not going to get to see here again until the mr olympia 12 weeks from tommorow.. we count down every day basically. hopefully I'll be moving out thier jan or febuary and we can get a place together... thats the plan atleast. If you are like me you will drop everything for her, i just want a new life with her shes such a keeper and I cannot miss this opurtunity so its my only option. the price it would cost u flying if u were me atlleast (2300miles) on somewhat of a regular bases to see her, you could get a house or apartment for. so thats what im doing, I fucking hate detroit anyway, some black guy shot my friend in the back last night in detroit at the races.. I dont have details what its over but killing a stranger is a bit extreme IMO, he was a good guy. but this is nothing new if you live right by 8mile like me, I want something new, a home 2300 miles from her thats another motivation to see her, is leaving this shit hole.

NUTSOE · #3 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 08:53 AM

Well heres my advice always cover your ass me and my g/f just broke up we had a nice place together but hse fucked me royaly i have nothin all my slacks/suits is at our/her house and my new pc
which she claims is hers now so whatever you choose always remember nothing last forever but enjoy it while it last and always cover your ass

TERUMO · #4 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 12:07 PM

sounds like she really does love ya if she stayed with you after you said what went on.
I never have been in a long distance relationship,but I don't think I could do it.You will probably drive yourself crazy wondering what shes doing all the time.If I were you, and you really love her,I would consider moving.But I would really think it over.Why did she just up and move?

riv · #5 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 12:43 PM

BBA and Dave, i would go for it! if you have a chance take it, guys be with the one you love

organdoner · #6 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 02:53 PM

being away from each other can be a good thing bro. it's good that you trust each other without the worries of someone cheating. so cut the funds on cycles in half and train harder and use that free-d up cash for frequent flyer miles. on the other side maybe a move won't be that bad. a change of scene might be great. you can always move back if things don't workout.

Bigbadasian · #7 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 04:52 PM

|---[\\\\]>--------- Thanks for those who replied and i hope more ppl chime in. She moved b/c she is going to school down there. When i first me her 2 yrs. ago..that was always her plan, finish her 2 yr. degree here and then move to go to school at ASU. I told her i would NEVER stand in her way of her dream. At first she yelled at me b/c i kept saying "Oh you'll prob. meet some nice boy down there next week" and she said that if i kept saying that to myself, i'd start to believe it and she is right...i'm only thinking positive things now b/c i KNOW she would never do that to me...i know she is the most faithful girl i've met and i just have to stop thinking neg. thoughts otherwise we wo'nt last. I am VERY open to moving. Right now i'm looking to purchase a gym out in Cali 1sti, get things rolling there, buy a house out in AZ for her to live in in the meantime, then after the biz. gets on it's feet, i'll move down to AZ with her. and i'll already have a house.

Dave--MI huh? man, that is a long ways away and you are in the same boat as me. I am going to try to see her at least once a mth or fly her back here...tix are about $220 round trip. I just baught one for the end of aug. so if anyone lives in AZ, i'll be in your neck of the woods Aug28th.

ps. Sorry to hear about your frend...that is a tragic loss.

slide · #8 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 05:22 PM

BBA..Ive been in a long distance relationship once and would never do it again as it was just too much of a hassle trying to "stay together", but we were never talking marriage and not as serious as you sound. Plus she/I couldnt stop thinking who was doin who, so it just made shit worse.

If youre open to moving, Id say get your own place first and test the waters. Big step moving across country and diving right into things. Id hate to see you get a place together and then something happen and then BAM, the only thing you have is a Cubs hat and a pair of Nikes. Not that anything would happen, but as was stated before, cover your ass first. It may sound selfish, but shit happens, and nobody likes to see these things happen to good people (sorry to hear about NUT).

I saw you talking about the gym over on PM..good luck with that too bro, and just like you said to her, dont let her stand in your dreams/goals either. Good luck, bro!

-slide

MAXM · #9 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 06:52 PM

I have been in 2 and 9 times out of 10 it will not last. Not trying to be an ass but it is just too hard to keep it going. Eventually you guys are going to want more out of it either your girls or you will need more! It will get old quick and just wait until a girl near you shows interest then what? It will happen trust me. I am not saying to not go for it, if you guys feel strongly about the girls then go for it, but like stated before be careful alot of shit can and prpbably will happen behind your backs eventually... good luck bros!

jawbreakerkid · #10 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 07:24 PM

just say no...if you move out there you may feel obligated to stay with her because of all the effort you went through to be with her. Do you really want to uproot your life for something that "could" last? I know right now the feelings are strong and are the driving force in your decision making, take a step back, let time go on and see if you still feel the same way. And anyway...it's hot as hell in AZ...could you see gooey and I visting you...we'd be a sweaty mess!!!!

Mr.Huge · #11 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 11:22 PM

please don't go my slant eyed friend... I'll be lonely here. Oh and if i go to jail I wont have anyone to visit me....lol

Mr.Huge

Bigbadasian · #12 (**permalink**) 07-31-2003, 11:33 PM

|--[\\\\]>---------- if i do go Huge, you should consider moving too...AZ is growing like crazy, lots of opportunities and with all the shit you have to put up here, it'd be good for ya.

JJRabbit · #13 (**permalink**) 08-01-2003, 07:42 AM

Where ever you are BBA...take the furry one with you...i hate my hole! JBK always trying to poke me from behind...beastiality is a horrible thing JBK! Shame on you.

jawbreakerkid · #14 (**permalink**) 08-01-2003, 04:35 PM

you try to impale a rabbit from behind and you get labeled...I get no breaks in life...lol

Hey BBA, real estate is cheap as hell in AZ...cuz all you're paying for is sand and dirt!!!

riv · #15 (**permalink**) 08-01-2003, 04:44 PM

dave, after reading what happened to you[ read his post over at promuscle ], get the fuck out of detroit, your gonna get killed one day man

Riv

MAXM · #16 (**permalink**) 08-01-2003, 05:17 PM

DITTO

rAJJIN · #17 (**permalink**) 08-02-2003, 01:45 AM

Man thats tough, i dont know man.
I know me Im a jealous, insecure, overprotective, and all that other shit Oprah Winfrey preaches to women about.
It would be very hard for me, thats a major decision in your life
buddy, will change a lot of things either way you go. Just do what
your heart an mind tell you to do, everything happens for a reason.

organdoner · #18 (**permalink**) 08-04-2003, 05:29 PM

if you plan to open a gym and buy a house etc i assume you are financially ok which is a good thing. go with your heart. there may be a future with her. you can go online and bid for tickets to the tune of maybe a little more than 1/2 of $220.00. she's actually not that far away.

Bigbadasian · #19 (**permalink**) 08-04-2003, 05:51 PM

|--[\\\\]>-------- yeah, no luck on bidding, i bid $180 on one and it didn't except my bid. I did Hotwire and i found that one for $220. Hopefully in the 'down time' of traveling (whenever that may be) they'll be cheaper. The one good ting about her being there now is that when she gets her own place and i do decide to move down there, i will have a place to live without worrying about rent for a mth or two...that way i can look for a job. As far as the gym thing goes, my friend just flew out there this weekend to look at it and said it's a great gym, but we should research it a bit more.

jawbreakerkid · #20 (**permalink**) 08-04-2003, 07:04 PM

this is the down time for travel...who the hell goes to the desert in August? LOL

skibum77 · #21 (**permalink**) 08-05-2003, 03:31 AM

Sounds like she is a good find. Moving doesn't sound like that bad of an idea just make sure you don't find yourself getting to far into something you can't walk away from if you REALLY need to. Always try to leave yourself and out whether you need it or not. As for the gym man i suggest you do alot of research on the dempgraphics of the area and such to make sure its a sound investment and ALWAYS remember if something sounds to good to be true the it usually is. I usually and the pessimistic when it comes to financial inverstments and then if i can convince myself its worth it at least you have covered all the angle prior to getting involved. Best of luck man and i hope everything works out for you.