Girl Problems bros!!!

viper10139 · #1 (**permalink**) 10-19-2002, 02:53 PM

Sup bro's need some advice here..me and my girl has been going out for about 10 months, and she told me the other day that she has JUST been Talking to this guy for about 3 weeks...and her work place, however I went there last night to suprise her..since today is her birthday and she had got off from work went home changed clothes and went back there to have dinner with her brother and sister in law good and well knowing that he would be there working....(Red Lobster)!!! However we fought all night long, when she came out I asked her if Paul was in there(the guy she has been talking to).....and she said YES but working....however we fought, and there is a 3 year old little girl involved as well, and my girl told me that if it was not for our little girl she would go out with this guy...I seen him last night and he is a skinny little bitch!!! wtf!!! guys what should I do about my girl, has she left me already or are we to far gone or what guys? come on guys this has been the best girl I have ever been with...she is the best, what' should I do....She has my girl......what do u guys think??)

stackdizzy · #2 (**permalink**) 10-19-2002, 05:18 PM

Sorry to hear about this bro!!! There are alot of things though involved that we don't know. Like how well do you listen, how you make her feel, what she likes about you or what you like about her etc....etc.... Relationships are complicated bro, I dunno why this girl is liking the dude but muscle size usually has little to do with girls decisions. Maybe this guy is doing something for her that you are not, or maybe she is just bored and needs excitement! If she has told you that if it were not for your duaghter she would be gone thats usually a bad sign! I know you love her bro and thats always tough but this woman is either trying to make you jelous or just wants out. If she was just making you jelous I'd get rid of her becuase she is doing it now and if you just take it she'll be doing the rest of your life and now one needs that! If she truly likes the other guy better than yoou bro there is nothing you can do. In my personal opionion i would let her go you don't want to be second to every dude she likes and trust me she will make you feel that way forever. Dude if it were me I would ask her if you guys could just be friends. Its up to you though man! There are tons of other woman out there that won't be talking to every dude they meet and will love you and treat you with respect.

viper10139 · #3 (**permalink**) 10-19-2002, 05:45 PM

thanks stack!!! I appreciate that...it hit close to home, she says she just feels not loved, however nothing has changed, I had her presents and roses for her b-day, but I gave them to her last night.....since we were fighting, however I do care for her....and I don't want to lose her however I see your point, she is proably just using me like that but oh well, that is fine, maybe I should just end it....I really love her and her little girl, but maybe sometimes things just don't go our way I guess oh well once again thanks to your reply, and she would be making the biggest mistake of her life if she did this...

stackdizzy · #4 (**permalink**) 10-19-2002, 08:14 PM

Dude i see by your reply that you don't want to lose this girl!!! There are many things you can do to show her the guy she fell in love with is still there for her! You should surprise her, take her out and act like you just met this woman and that you are really interested in her! Ask her about herself, goals likes/dislikes just talk about her! When your out don't talk too much about yourself and definatly not about your gear(they hate this for some reason, i dunno why) Then maybe rent a hotel room or take a few days vacation and make it all about her. (find a sitter if possible) If she says she is not feeling loved maybe you need to spend some more time with her and show her a little romance. She might just be telling you that she is seeing this dude so that you will get up and start attending to her needs a little more! Hope this helps bro!!

Oh and if this doesn't work pillow case the dude at work and tell him to stay the fuck away!!!!

Ivan · #5 (**permalink**) 10-19-2002, 08:24 PM

Viper......................OOOOOOOOOOOOHH man do I know how you feel my freind.....It is weird because it happened to a buddy of mine also, EXACTLY AFTER 10 months too! Ok my situation: (this was 3 years ago) My girl who I loved (or I thought) had been dating for 10 months....slowly we began fighting over ANYTHING....before I could stop the landslide ( I am so damn stubborn) she ended things... I went crazy trying to get her back and it just made her go farther and farther away....Then I hear she is dating some pencil neck substitute teacher baseball coach... Now I was 230 pounds 8% I am a wrestler so I was in disbelief that she went for this little fuck... What makes things worse is that he starts bragging about he he is fucking my old lady!!!! So I call her 1 night and he is at her place, blabbing in the background....I erupt and jog to her house (after I broke the phone) I open the door (which was locked) I shouldered it open, (I had to pay later) and the little fucker pops the screen off the window and scrambles away----I do not think I had ever seen so much red!! Anyway, he got away, but I found him "coaching" and pulled him aside and basicaly told him he would be a found in a dumpster if he ever talked to me like that ---- he kinda smirked and nodded...GOD I HATE THAT LITTLE FUCKER....

So him and my girl begin this new life together, and get this; everything she always preached to me about or was against THEY DID!!!??? WTF??! So they end up having a baby, marriage after 6 months, they marry, so the baby had not even been born yet... She flushed her once ambitious life down the toilet with this guy.

HERE IS WHAT I LEARNED:
I had to hide many things about myself to her...juice, my alleged religious beliefs she thought I shared with her, my every once in a while smoke (weed) and other shit....

I am much happier with the girl I am with now, been dating over a year and she rocks! She is really into fitness, has a lot to learn though, she is hot, and is the best damn person I know.. She likes to play nurse and give me my pokes, anything... So I realize now that I would never had been truly happy w/my other girl.....
And I thought she was everything to me...It crushed me..but I grew stronger and better. I learned a lot about myself and a lot about women...Judging from what you said, it is time to be strong bro, ya gotta show her you do not depend on her for shit (as in emotional dependency) this will be very hard, but do it man!!! Go out and meet ladies as she talks to the average breed.....be a true meathead and go find yourself a lady, check the gyms!!

stevieg · #6 (**permalink**) 10-20-2002, 01:57 AM

viper i know how you feel bro, i was in the same situation a while ago, i had a child with girl and she did the same thing to me,, well i freaked out this chick was hot and i had to see her every time i picked up my son, well to make a long story short she married this guy and got as fat as a cow and now i'm 40 in shape and got a 25 yr old honey by my side. so listen up bro everything works out for the best, what will be will be. you'll see trust me she might not be worth it after all

crackerjack414 · #7 (**permalink**) 10-20-2002, 02:29 AM

yeah it seems like you love her bro show her dont do anything rash. I know i once did and it cost me the girl I loved. And i dont care what anyone says smashing the F^&*(ers face doesnt leave you feeling any better. U should just lay it all out to her tell her you love her and ask her what she wants to do. Thers nothing worse than growing up with parents who hate each other i can attest to that

viper10139 · #8 (**permalink**) 10-21-2002, 02:43 PM

THANKS TO EVERYONE THAT HAS HELPED ME... this is what happened I went on to the party and acted real cool and all, however the current girl friend was there, however my X was also there, but we were very civil since we are friends...however things were looking promising, when I got there my current asked me to talk with her later....the party was at my best friends house, who married my X's sister....so u know? I know it's confusing, but still,

Other than that, we talked she apologized and everything went decent, she just said that she felt as if I don't care for her anymore... which I do...and I love her, and her girl....things have gotten progessivly better...we sit down and talked everything out so we are starting from scratch, so we went to a movie last night just to see how things are..and we just had a good time, I told her that I would start caring more for her...because she felt as if I was putting the GEAR before her...and that I was more interested in my GEAR than her... I apologized for that..and YES I have put a lot of thought and research into my next and upcoming cycle...so yes I want this one to be special, but once again, THANKS TO EVERYONE!!! If anything else happens I will keep u updated, but we are just taking it slow for now...and we have made promises to one another if something is bothering us, to tell the other person espcially if either of us finds someone else, due to the fact of her little girl. Just remember, IF ANYBODY NEEDS ANYTHING AND THEY FOR SOME REASON GET PUT IN THE SAME SITUATION, I WILL BE HERE JUST PM ME OR E-MAIL ME....PEROID....I WILL BE HERE ANYTIME ANYPLACE FOR ANY OF YOU AND THANKS ONCE AGAIN!! P.S. we are taking it very slow right now...and I am keeping my distance as we speak..I am giving her a couple of weeks, like I told her she is 100% with me or she is 100% single...thanks again..
-Viper

Ivan · #9 (**permalink**) 10-21-2002, 06:00 PM

Amen brother.....Amen. :o)

stackdizzy · #10 (**permalink**) 10-24-2002, 01:22 AM

hey dude I just saw this and haven't been on since saturday but this is good to hear bro and good luck!!!!!!

Bigbadasian · #11 (**permalink**) 10-24-2002, 07:51 AM

|--[\\\]>------- that's what i fucking hate about girls..they always try and use gear as a fucking excuse. I was dating this girl, my old training partner for about 4 or 5 mths. This girl is at fucking 9 on the scales and i wasn't sure why the hell she wanted to be with me, but i guess the common interest in lifting and fitness, coupled by the fact taht we were together everyday to trian, i grew on her...anyways i was crazy about this girl (still am actually) and we were together, then he schooling and work got in the way, but i was not bitter, i ended things b/c i felt it was best...through this whole time, i told her aobut my gear and she actually shot me up 2x's a week in the back of my tri's for me. I even stashed gear at her place so i thought everything was cool...even though we broke up, we still talk to each other everynite b4 we go to bed, have lunch, dinner, movies, ect, but then the other day she sprung on me, "I'd like you to get your box tonite when you come over for your shot...i just don't agree/approve of what you do"--WTF...where the hell is this coming from...where was this attitude fucking a yr. ago when i 1st met you....obviously if it was that big of a deal, then she whould have dropped me the second she found out taht i juiced...WTF...why keep it in so long. "I understand why you do it, but i just don't approve of it anymore."--Fukcing bitch...but whatever...i made her feel so guilty that she still agrees to shoot me up...but i did take my gear back.

stackdizzy · #12 (**permalink**) 10-26-2002, 01:35 AM

Ya chicks are weird dude! First for the most part they don't like juice! (I can't even fathom this) Then when the juice dick comes around! The freaks are first in line! I wouldn't waste my time thinking about what goes on in their heads. I would just tell myself "whatever" and talk to her when I want some ass. BBa the chick is probably doing this to save some face(i imagine). So when people ask her why you 2 aren't together she can say your a juiceball without being a total hypocrit by still having your junk at her house! Than again who knows